Joey and Spencer were sitting at the table doing their homework when Joey (3rd grade) noticed that Spencer (1st grade) was writing his spelling words with a pen instead of a pencil. Joey said, “Hey, who said you could use pen?” Spencer very matter of factly questioned, “Who said I couldn’t?”
This is in a nutshell is the difference between Joey and Spencer. Joey asks permission to do everything. Spencer has found it easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.